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Camera-ready handouts from pflag-talk and tgs-pflag.
2 pages means 2 sides--one sheet of paper. If your browser/printer combo does not reproduce these with the specified page length, Emily Rizzo <er5@is2.nyu.edu> will send you the masters you need through the US. mail. Contributions to cover costs are accepted but not required.

• Medical Abuse of GLBT Youth; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/gid.htm
• Is this Child Gay, Transgendered, or Both?; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/gid2.htm
Should PFLAG be Transgender Inclusive? Read this.
by Nancy Sharp with Shannon Minter
• Parents Live in Closets Too; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/parents-closets.htm
When children come out of the closet they pass their parents going in.
from the Philadelphia PFLAG Survival Kit
• The Subtler Forms of Homophobia; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/subtle.htm
"Where are the parents whose kids don't look "normal?"
by Cathy Tuerck
• Fifteen Reasons I Have Changed My Mind; 4 pages

Written by a fundamentalist Christian
http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/15reasons.htm
by Roberta Showalter Kreider
• With Age Comes Understanding; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/age.htm
A story about Coming Out to Grandma
from the Philadelphia PFLAG Survival Kit
• Judaism and Gays 101; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/jews&gays.htm;
Provides a gateway to much more information on this topic
by Zevei
• Sign on Wall - "Hit Head Here - X"; 4 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/hithead.htm
Dealing with lack of parental acceptance
by Alex Knapp and pflag-talkers
• Sex For a Change (humor); 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/sex4achange.htm
Imagining if our elected officials changed their gender
by Art Hoppe, columnist, the San Francisco Examiner
• About our Transgendered Children http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/tgkidfaq.htm

This file is a revised version of the following two (earlier) files:
 
 
• A Primer by Transgender Nation; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/tgprimer.htm
Includes tips on words to choose when speaking about transgenders
from Jessica Xavier, Transgender Nation
• Frequently Asked Questions about our Transgendered Children; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/tgKIDfaq.html
similar to the Transgender Nation Primer
by Sharon Stuart and the subscribers to tgs-pflag
• PFLAG TG-SON TransParent Winter, 1997 ; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/transparent.htm
• PFLAG TG-SON TransParent Summer 1997 ; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/transparent2.htm
Stories about PFLAG parents who have transgendered children
edited by Maggie Heineman

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• PFLAG-Talk and TGS-PFLAG: The lists, the website, the handouts; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/vlibfaq.htm
Online PFLAG's relationship to National PFLAG and PFLAG chapters
by maggie@critpath.org
• Netiquette by Emily Rizzo; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/netiquet.htm
by rizzoe@fasecon.econ.nyu.edu
• AOL Tips by Jason Hungerford; 2 pages

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/aoltips.htm
Helping AOL users find their way to the web
by jason@critpath.org
• Majordomo is *not* a Person; 1 page

http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/majordomo.htm
Basic information about email lists
by maggie@critpath.org

Print publications

• PFLAG Public Directory http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/chapters.htm- no graphics, hardcopy from your printer, one file for U.S., one file for International.
• PFLAG Public Directory http://www.pflag.org/chapters/chapter.html - graphics, state-by-state listings. 28 pages, $2.00; PFLAG, 1101 14th Street, NW, Suite 1030, Washington, DC 202/638-4200, FAX 202-638-0243 publications@pflag.org.
• Homosexuality APA paper on homosexuality: http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/orient.html Free to PFLAG chapters. The limit is 250 copies per chapter (Phila PFLAG has reordered several times). American Psychological Association, 750 First Street, N.E., Washington, DC 20002- 4242. phone (202)336-5700.
• National PFLAG Publication List http://www.pflag.org/store/pub.html free. National PFLAG, 1101 14th Street, NW, Suite 1030, Washington, DC 20005. Voice (202)638-4200, FAX 202/638-0243 publications@pflag.org.
• Be Yourself: Questions and Answers For Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Youth http://www.outproud.org/brochure_be_yourself.html $2.75; National PFLAG, 1101 14th Street, NW, Suite 1030, Washington, DC 20005. Voice (202)638-4200, FAX (202)638-0243 publications@pflag.org.
• Read this Before Coming Out to Your Parents http://www.pflagphila.org/brochure.htm ($1.50, 100 copies for $100.00. includes shipping and handling. Philadelphia PFLAG, PO Box 15711, Philadelphia, PA 19103. phone (215)572-1833, Monthly Meeting Info: smcnarb@critpath.org; this brochure is also available at http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.htm.
• Can We Understand, A Brochure for Parents http://www.outproud.org/brochure_for_parents.html$1.00, includes shipping and handling. NYC PFLAG, P.O. Box 553 Lennox Hill Station, New York, NY 10021 phone: (212)463-0629. no email.
• I Think I Might be Gay, Now What Do I Do? http://www.outproud.org/brochure_think_gay.html$15/$25 for the master, you do the photocopying. See below.
• I Think I Might be Lesbian, Now What Do I Do? http://www.outproud.org/brochure_think_lesbian.html

Individuals and organizations may reprint and distribute the pamphlets with the written permission of the Campaign to End Homophobia and a contribution of $15 from individuals and $25 from organizations. The Campaign, P.O. Box 438316, Chicago, IL 60643-8316. no phone, no email.
• Watching Out for Yourself in Online Relationships - Tips for the Lesbigay Teen http://www.outproud.org/brochure_watching_out.html - This brochure was created to help protect you as you explore the online world. For some, it can be like growing up in a small town in the Midwest and all of a sudden finding yourself thrown in the middle of New York City. It's important to make sure you have the skills you need to get by. We care about your safety and hope you'll read this brochure before you go any farther. Developed by !OutProud!
• Brazilian/Portugese websites
• Será que eu sou gay? (questioning people)

http://www2.uol.com.br:800/mixbrasil/rainbow/seragay.htm
• Vale a pena assumir? (coming out or not)

http://www2.uol.com.br:800/mixbrasil/rainbow/vale.htm
• Dá para entender? (aos pais) (guide to parents)

http://www2.uol.com.br:800/mixbrasil/cultura/entender.htm
• capítulo português da Ilga traz informações sobre o movimento e vida gay em Portugal.

http://www.ilga-portugal.org/
• A much visited website http://www.portugalgay.pt

Web Publications and Sites

Support for spouses, gay parents, children of gays

• Straight Spouse Network (SSN) http://www.ssnetwk.org/
• Family Pride Coalition (formerly the Gay and Lesbian Parents Coalition International) http://www.familypride.org
• Children of Gays and Lesbians Everywhere (COLAGE) http://www.colage.org/

• Homosexuality and Religion Documents http://www.iwgonline.org/links/#bglt

The collection assembled by Chris Purdom, the co-coordinaator of the Interfaith Working Group and owner of the Religion List: http://www.iwgonline.org/religionlist/.
• President Clinton speaks to the Human Rights Campaign http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/ClintonHRC.html
• Always Our Children: A Pastoral Message to Parents of Homosexual Children and Suggestions for Pastoral Ministers A Statement of the National Conference of Catholic Bishops' Committee on Marriage and Family - 1997

English: http://www.nccbuscc.org/laity/always.htmSpanish: http://www.nccbuscc.org/laity/alwaysp.htm
• A Skewed Circle Comes Full: Reflections on Being a Gay Student at a Jesuit Prep http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/skewedcircle.htm

• The Rhea Murray Website http://www.critpath.org/rhea/ Rhea's life and eloquence are an inspiration to everyone who knows her. Edited by Maggie Heineman.
• Jim Bilbrey's Care Page http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/4254/care.htm
• For Parents of the Newly-Out http://www.bidstrup.com/parents.htm from Scott Bidstrup
• The Cool Page for Queer Teens http://www.bidstrup.com/cool.htm from Scott Bidstrup
• Oasis http://www.oasismag.com/ - Look for the monthly columns by Emily Rizzo.
• Gabi Clayton's Home Page http://www.youth-guard.org/gabi/ - Gabi's son committed suicide on May 8, 1995 after being assaulted in a hate crime. He lives on, inspiring those who read his story.
• An Open Letter from a PFLAGMOM http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/openletter.html Chicago PFLAG member Nancy Lamkin Olson writes about her concerns for gay children everywhere when it comes to ... sex. [Note: This article was written in response to an opinion piece by Larry Kramer in the New York Times on December 12, 1997. The Times and Mr. Kramer have graciously given us permission to reprint that article here, and the webmaster should be doing that sometime soon.] Nancy's articles (and a very thoughtful thread of discussion on PFLAG-Talk) were inspired by the "Sex Panic" movement. Some links (outside of the library) to Sex Panic articles can be found at
A Declaration of Sexual Rights: http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Heights/5777/decl.htm
Sex Panic Publications: http://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Heights/5777/pubs.htm
Building a Movement for Sexual Freedom during a Moment of Sex Panichttp://www.geocities.com/WestHollywood/Heights/5777/building.htm
Two other related articles are now in the library, courtesy of San Francisco Frontiers magazine: Sexual Outlaws and Conditions of Unconditionality
• You Always Have a Home in PFLAG - http://www.CritPath.org/alwaysahome.html a note from Nancy Lamkin Olson
• The Steve Schalchlin Survival Site - http://www.geocities.com/Broadway/1173/ S Steve is a singer-songwriter with a famous net diary. Living in the Bonus Round 2 (crixivan recovery).
• Bridges of Respect http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/bridges.html

Mitzi Henderson' keynote address at the 1994 PFLAG National Convention is an eloquent call to meet with those who disagree with us as well as with our friends, to enter into dialogue, and to open new avenues of understanding.
• Bridges of Respect Seminal Essay - link currently unavailable

Maggie Heineman's hypertext essay is on a fundamentalist website which promotes respectful dialogue.
• Bridges Across the Divide http://www.bridges-across.org

This is a dialogue project based on the Bridges speech and essay.
• What If? http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/whatif.html

Janet Elizabeth Flecher - TGS-PFLAG listowner - reflects on what it takes to there and available for people in times of need, especially those contemplating or undergoing transgender transition.
• Dialogue Can Cause Controversy http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/bridges/cath30.htm

The Reaction of Some Roman Catholic Bishops to the call of the late Joseph Cardinal Bernardin of Chicago to seek dialogue and Common Ground.
• Chadron Campaign Against Homophobia http://www.critpath.org/action-project/chadron.html

A college student gets gaybashed and drops out of a Nebraska state college. This website by Maggie Heineman started with the story about that student, Matt McNeil. A work in progress, it now reports on Gabi's Clayton's son who killed himself, RheaMurray's son who had to leave highschool, and an anonymous student at Chadron High School student who writes poetry about being imprisoned by fear. There are links to resources to combat teen suicide and homophobia in schools.
• DePauw Campaign Against Homophobia http://www.critpath.org/action-project/depauw.html

The campus newspaper does a homophobic parody. The faculty advisor to the glbt student group echoes Rhea Murray's cry of "NO MORE" and sets in motion a chain of events, including this website by Maggie Heineman, which leads to positive action at DePauw University.
• Campaign for Equal Rights at Chrysler http://www.critpath.org/chrysler-campaign/

Maggie Heineman's first experiment in using a website combined with an email blitz to send a wake-up-call to an institution. This one involved street protests. It worked, On November 13, 1996, one day before the protests, Chrysler blinked.
• About my father's death: A message from Phyllis Frye http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/phyllis.html Phyllis Frye shares what her father's death and funeral meant to her.
• Robbie Kirkland's Story
• Robbie's Story: How A Fragile 14-Year-Old Boy Was Crushed In His Struggle To Accept Being Gay http://www/critpath.org/pflag-talk/kirkland1.html

Teen turns to suicide to end nonstop torment
http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/kirkland2.html
• San Francisco Frontiers (http://www.frontiersweb.com/sfcurrent) has graciously given PFLAG-Talk permission to reprint useful articles they publish, related to our purpose.

What Pride Day means to Parents, by Laura Federico http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/feat_3.html
A Father's Day Remembrance http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/feat_5.html
• PFLAG National Responds to Recent Anti-Gay Advertisements - http://www.pflag.org/press/ad.html
• PFLAG National's Tips for the Holidays - http://www.pflag.org/spotlight/holidaytips.html
• A Speech by the Hon. Justice Michael Kirby, High Court of Australia, Feb. 2000

(reprinted by permission) Social Justice, the Churches and Homosexuality - http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/socialjustice+churches.html

Great For Chapter Newsletters

• PFLAG Poetry for Newsletters #1; 2 pages

[San Diego Pride, Gibran's "On Children," Bob Bernstein] http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/poetry1.htm
• PFLAG Poetry for Newsletters #2; 1 page

[Bob Benow, Mark Belletini]
http://www.critpath.org/pflag-talk/poetry2.htm
• Laura Siegel Collection
• Marching With My Queer Son Laura's son loves her just the way she is.
• Why I March with PFLAG Laura tells about her first gay pride march.
• How to Come Out-- Correctly Laura oped in the San Francisco Examiner.
• Interview with My Queer Son Laura's son prefers the word "queer."
• Father Dunn's Advice to Catholic Parents.
• My Gay Pride Pennant - Close to My Heart by Edward Biebel.
• Prayers for Bobby - The Book That Was Almost About Me by Derik K. Cowan
• In the Name of a God That Is Love by Richard Klee Smith

Family Videos (videos are listed because someone made the request, easy as that)

• Family Values

The documentary by filmmaker Pam Walton about her father. Pam's story is central to Mitzi Henderson's Bridges of Respect Speech. Pam Walton, P.O. Box 391025, Mountain View, CA 94039. (415) 960-3414.
• Weird and Wacky? Families Trying to Understand Homosexuality.

Produced by authors and activists Dr. Pam Allen-Thompson and Di Allen-Thompson, LPCC. Coordinators of PFLAG-Toledo. The Beloved and "Bent" -- Families Learning to Accept Lesibans and Gays is a companion book containing all 18 interviews in full--with introduction, analysis, and letters. Video $29.95 (+ $3 S&H); book $12.95 (+ $3 S&H) Proceeds go to PFLAG-Toledo's youth outreach. Send check to PFLAG-Toledo, POB 4619, Toledo OH 43620.
• The Mel White Video

The Rhetoric of Intolerance. $15.55 from the Soulforce website - http://www.soulforce.org/shopsite_sc/store/html/re_videos.html. Contact Rev. Mel White via email at revmel@aol.com
• "IT'S ELEMENTARY - Talking About Gay Issues in School"

Groundbreaking documentary available in original 78 minute version and 37 educational training version. Special discount for PFLAG chapters. Many PFLAG groups have used this video to successfully open up dialogue with local educators. For a full description and for ordering information, see www.womedia.org; or call Women's Educational Media at 415 641 4616. Email: wemfilms@womedia.org.

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Bibliographic Resources for LGBT People, Family, and Friends

• New York Public Library Research Guide to Gay and Lesbian Studies - http://www.nypl.org/research/chss/grd/resguides/gay.html
• Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Resources for Librarians - http://www.drizzle.com/~kathleen/wla/glbt.html
• San Francisco Public Library
• Gay and Lesbian Center - http://206.14.7.53/glcenter/home.htm
• Bibliographies for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Teens -http://206.14.7.53/glcenter/bibliographies.htm
• You Are Not Alone: Resources for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgendered Teens - http://206.14.7.53/teen/glbteenbklst.htm
• Homosexuality in Young Adult Fiction and Nonfiction - http://scholar.lib.vt.edu/ejournals/ALAN/winter96/webunder.html

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